"I am who I am and there is nothing I can do about it."
I'm 55. And from my late teens until 45, I was resigned to believing that. Often in conflict, being misunderstood, not fitting in, feeling "less-than" and miserable while maintaining the outward appearance that I was basically doing just fine. Turns out, as smart as I am, I was wrong.
10 years ago, I started learning how the mind works. Literally, why we think the way we do. I started learning skills few people ever teach you. Over the following years, knowing how our minds work allowed me to be less of a victim and more of a player. I no longer felt powerless, shame, and misery and started to feel in control, powerful and content. I learned how to map my way to the happiness and power I wanted.
The result? I am much more relaxed and happy. The people around me are no longer assholes, and yet I have not removed myself from situations or people in order to do that. Of course I still have my negative days, I get pissed off, and I get down in the dumps. But it's nothing like before.
Learning these skills is much easier in person, interactively. But I offer these posts to reach more people who may be feeling similar. The skills are simple. Adopting them takes belief, commitment, practice and reflection.